When choosing your Wedding venue, you need to remember that it affects so many aspects of your day; from number of guests to dining options and even your colour scheme.
After visiting the usual suspects on the Wedding venue lists in Cornwall and Devon, we were finding it impossible to find something that ticked all the boxes, so that’s when we decided on a Do It Yourself Wedding, a marquee in a field and it was perfect.
Here are my top tips and a few things I wish people had told me before I started.
Don’t Try And Do It All Yourself
Despite the name DIY Wedding, don’t be afraid to ask for help. Whether it is because you don’t want to lose any control or you don’t want to burden others, don’t try and do it all yourself. There is so much to think about when planning and you’ll find that both yours and his family and friends are all excited to help.
Work Out What You Want & Start With The Basics
Everyone needs a starting point and I found the best place to do that is with the budget and the guest list. From there you can work out what you can afford; want lots of guests, but can’t afford a formal sit down meal? Have a Hog Roast and ask family members to bake cakes. Want a formal sit down meal, but have too many guests? Then there are several ways you can reduce the guest list, for example by limiting the number of plus ones and children; try saying something like “In order to invite all of our friends and family we are unable to accommodate for plus ones or children, we hope you understand and are still able to share our special day with us”.
Maybe your bestie is like Monica from Friends, or you can fit a professional into the budget, but this is something that I could not of done without. Planning a Wedding takes over your life for a year, so having someone to delegate the work too and help with logistics is gold dust. And by logistics I mean, who meets the florist in the morning, lays the place settings, ensures the cake is in the right place, announced the wedding breakfast, cues the band, tidies up at the end of the night… and that’s just scratching the surface
Arts And Crafts – (the good and the bad)
Pinterest has more inspiration than you could ever imagine, so get creating some idea boards. But, remember that although arts and crafts is super fun, especially with your bridal squad and a few glasses of prosecco, its also messy and time consuming.
Decorating your own space is great, you can be as creative as you like and the venue will reflect your personality. Your wedding will be truly unique. However, if your anything like me, all those little £5 here and £10 there will soon add up and before you know it, your spare room will have transformed into a wedding storage unit and there will be a big whole in the budget.
Keep Track Of Your Spending & Find Ways to Save
When planning your own wedding you’ll need a place to keep track of all your different vendors, direct contact details, deposits made, final payment due dates etc. This needs to be easy to understand, so whatever system works best for you, whether that’s a five page Excel spread sheet (guilty) or colour coded three-ring binder (also guilty).
There are so many ways you can save money, for example, rather than spending £1000 on a photobooth, why not create your own selfie-station complete with props? We had mini bottles of prosecco as our favours, that way everyone had something to toast with.
We also made all our own signs with pallets and even made our own bar - not only does it help keep the cost down, it also adds a real personal touch.
It's Not Going To Be Perfect
When you pour so much of your heart, soul and money into planning your wedding, the thought of things running behind schedule or the evening buffet running out is unbearable, but seriously, unless something actually stops you getting married, then what I said above is a lie, it is going to be perfect!